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26 and a half blissful wedded years

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How long have you been married?

26 and a half blissful wedded years!” ~My Mother

Happy Anniversary

Nick and Judy – 196?
Lara and Steve – 1989

Her response was the same regardless of the actual wedding anniversary she was celebrating. Even in conversations with my dad, she would say, “You would think after 26 and a half blissful wedded years…

It was a phrase I heard throughout my childhood. To me, it was a term of endearment and I never really thought about how long my parents were actually married. In fact, when I was an adult and married for several years, my mother’s older sister called me.

Lara, how long have your parents been married?

Me: Looong pause. “Um…I don’t know.

Aunt Nancy: “I think this is a milestone anniversary for your parents.

Me: “All I know is that they have been married for 26 and a half blissful wedded years!

Well, today, September 18, 2015 marks the day that I have been married for 26 and a half blissful wedded years!

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September 18, 2015 at 8:01 AM

In 25 Words…

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Is the Christian message being received?

If it is, would crime statistics be lower?

Would poverty be nonexistent?

Can Christians live by what they preach?

Purple Flower Cross

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August 10, 2012 at 8:27 AM

Opening day for Baltimore Orioles

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All I ever hear is how the economy sucks. The media is all over how many people are unemployed or losing jobs. So, let me ask you this…

Who can afford to go to opening day for the Baltimore Orioles?

Professional sporting events have become a luxury entertainment. Add it up. Ticket, refreshments and a souvenir and you can kiss that college savings good bye.

Why would you want to go to opening day for the Baltimore Orioles?

Good gracious those professional athletes make millions of dollars a year. In fact, a professional athlete will make more in one year than I will make in a life time. When we are in a good economy, I can be a spectator and dream about being as rich as them too some day. In a poor economy that dream is shattered.

How can you spend money on opening day for the Baltimore Orioles when there are so many charities that need your support?

Every time you buy a ticket to a professional sporting event you are making the rich richer. Dontcha think professional athletes should have to play without being paid? I think pro athletes should have to get a real job and play sports as a hobby… in their free time. Then we would all have a true hero to cheer for.

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April 6, 2009 at 3:11 PM

Fictionalized me

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There is an interesting blog post on Conversation Agent by Michael Leis.  His article The Truth is in 140 Characters stirred my conscious enough to write a response in my own blog post.

What did he say?

I think he is addressing the business crowd.  The way I read his article he is offering some insight into why social networking/social media is successful.  He is advising businesses on how to approach social networking/social media by giving them a peek at the “innards” of the system.  Now that I write that, let me reword it to say he is giving business a glimpse of the psychology involved underneath social networking/social media.  Here is the quote that made me pause and think “so.”

This is why I believe Social Media is taking off at rates unseen by any other form of media: it’s the people you know, fictionalized.”

Now I ask you, how is this any different then life itself?  Suppose I am looking for a job.  Suppose I get a call for an interview.  Let me tell you, the person I present in that interview is a fictionalized version of myself.  Ok another example.  Suppose it is Sunday.  Suppose I go to church.  The person I present once I have passed through those church doors is a fictionalized version of myself.  To the clergy/minister standing at the pulpit,to the others sitting in church and to myself at that moment  I profess to be a “good religious person.”  When God above KNOWS I was out Saturday night breaking 7 out of 10 commandments. 

Leis also touches on the subject of keeping in touch with people we knew in High School. He says,

“While of course they are real people in real life, as far as my interaction with them goes, they are only serving as entertainment. Neither one of us wants to be real friends again. We just want to enjoy the entertainment value of the friendship.”

Uh-huh.  Again, how is this any different then life itself?  My father in law is 70 years old.  He does not have a Facebook, MySpace or Twitter account.  Every year he attends two reunions.  One is a dinner out with the people he went to grade school with.  Yes. You read that correctly.  I said GRADE SCHOOL.  The other is a bull roast at the homecoming game  for his high school reunion.  He does not sustain intense, meaningful, relationships with his classmates.  He enjoys the entertainment value.  He connects with people he once had a shared experience.  I know he has purchased products, tried restaurants or gone to visit a place because this group of people discussed it.  I know he did not try their recommendations because he had some life long meaningful relationship with them.  I think he tried their recommendations because he wanted to connect with them.  He would have the opportunity at the next reunion to say, “Hey! I tried that thing you recommended.”  Then that awkward moment, where you are not sure what to say to someone for all intents and purposes is a stranger, melts away.

Michael Leis wrote a great article. Obviously.  His article resonated within me.  I liked the intensity I felt reading his article.

You know what?

I think because technology has introduced a new way or enhanced a way for us to communicate we find it necessary to over analyze it.  Human nature is human nature.  It is going to show no matter what medium you use.  I am going to enjoy my social networking/social media ride.  I am probably not going to give much thought to why I am going to enjoy the ride.

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September 7, 2008 at 7:51 PM

Reciprocity in Relationships

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“Making Friendships Blossom…These methods can get you out of truly sick naiad dyads and improve marginal cases, moving them away from strict role division toward reciprocity and flexibility.”  ~Martha Beck (April, 2008 O Magazine)

 

In Martha Beck’s article, “The Friendship Test,” she explains the different roles people assume in a friendship.  This look at friendships made me wonder about relationships in general.  I wonder if healthy relationships within families are based on reciprocity.  Or is it more common for family relationships to be based on fixed roles.

 

People expect friendships to come and go.  If a person is feeling unhealthy in a friendship, attempts to improve the relationship are accepted.  Sometimes the attempts are successful and the relationship moves towards reciprocity and flexibility.  Sometimes the attempts are unsuccessful and people move on.

 

Yet, family relationships are expected to last a life time.  Some people believe family relationships should last a life time at all costs.  Is this healthy? 

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August 27, 2008 at 9:15 AM