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Who recommended: Lynne Waymon

What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

Where in the book: page 72

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

Which quote: “Jot reminders on the backs of cards you collect, so that you can follow up and follow through.”

How this quote adjusted my thinking:

Now, how simple is that?  It never occurred to me to write on the back of a business card the context for receiving the card.

I have a business card  holder where I keep cards I have received.  Every once and a while I will look through them.  It is a neat trip down memory lane.  Imagine if I had handwritten notes on them?

How do you store the business cards you collect?  Do you write notes on the cards?  What is the date of your oldest business card in your collection?

Written by The Purple Lara

April 11, 2008 at 8:44 PM

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Who recommended: Lynne Waymon

What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

Where in the book: page 66

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

Which quote: “Brighten up body language.  Engage your partner.”

How this quote adjusted my thinking:

In social situations, I wonder if I am making eye contact?  Am I smiling?  Do I look approachable? Receptive?  When I read the advice, the defensive side of me says  “Yeah, yeah , yeah. I get it. I can do that.”  If I let my defenses down, I have to ask myself, how comfortable am I really?

Tina Su of Think Simple Now blog writes in her post 8 Keys To Instant Charisma about how to mirror the person you are speaking with.  Tina explains:

“Mirroring happens naturally in social interactions, but when you are conscious of it and are aware of its affects, it can be used as a tool in effective communication for generating rapport.”

Tina gives you a detailed description just like Lynne. At the end of Tina’s post,  I had to chuckle.  She says “Just be yourself.”  What if “being myself” isn’t working?  LOL Ok. Back to “Make Your Contacts Count.”

Underestimating the Power of Networking

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Who recommended: Lynne Waymon

What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

Where in the book: page 50

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

Which quote: “Never underestimate the power of networking to enhance your life, both professionally and personally.”

How this quote adjusted my thinking:

I think this is where I have faltered. I honestly thought networking was a one shot deal. I thought it was an activity I signed up for. Attend the activity, smile, state your name, exchange business cards and call it a day. In that perspective, networking is quite the chore.

My perspective of networking is changing. I like the idea of networking being ongoing. I am learning a new vocabulary. I am getting a new framework for my behavior. I feel more professional. I feel more confident.

Written by The Purple Lara

April 4, 2008 at 7:47 PM

Defining Networking Allies

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Who recommended:  Lynne Waymon

 

What I am reading:  Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

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Where in the book: page 42

 

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

 

Which quote: “Develop  Your Relationships-Six Stages- Allies= People who are experts on you, your business, your career, your needs, your aspirations and your vision.”

 

How this quote adjusted my thinking:      

Now I know I am too early in my business to have established these relationships.  While examining the relationships I do have established, I realize I am not an ally for anyone-yet. Having this book guide me gives me the road map I need to keep my networking as well as my business on track.

 

In these times it is so overwhelming to sift through all the business advice and opportunities.  It is so easy to get side tracked and derailed from your business objectives or even your personal objectives.  I like how this book gives me the vocabulary and a framework to keep focused.

Written by The Purple Lara

April 3, 2008 at 9:22 AM

Nurturing Advocates…

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Who recommended:  Lynne Waymon

 

What I am reading:  Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

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Where in the book: page 41

 

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

 

Which quote: “Develop Your Relationships-Six Stages-Advocate= People who believe in each other’s character and competence.”

 

How this quote adjusted my thinking:     

I definitely lack in “advocate” relationships.  I am going to pay close attention to the advice on how to move relationships into this circle.  I am hoping that my lack of “advocates” is because my business is so new.  I have not been networking long enough to develop this level of relationship.  It will happen. I I want to monitor my networking skills to make sure I am nurturing “advocates.”

Written by The Purple Lara

April 2, 2008 at 7:49 PM

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Who recommended:  Lynne Waymon

 

What I am reading:  Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

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Where in the book: page 41

 

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

 

Which quote: “Developing Your Relationships-Six Stages-Actors= People with whom you exchange valuable information, resources, or leads.”

 

How this quote adjusted my thinking:

The circle of relationships are getting tighter.  I do not have many people in  my “actors” circle. Unless, I am making the definition more constrictive than it needs to be.   There are a couple of associations where I give and receive information. The discussions within the groups are very helpful. I have learned a lot from them.  Perhaps I have more people in my “actors” circle than I originally thought. This books is really changing my perception.  I am eager to see how this book develops.

Written by The Purple Lara

April 1, 2008 at 9:56 AM

Defining my “associate” relationships…

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Who recommended:  Lynne Waymon

 

What I am reading:  Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon

make-your-contacts-cound-book-cover.jpg

 

Where in the book: page 41

 

Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!

 

Which quote: “Develop your relationships-Six Stages- Associates: People you come in contact with on some regular basis for some period of time.”

 

How this quote adjusted my thinking:

 

I belong to a virtual Relay for Life team.  The people on the team are so dedicated.  It is so rare to be working with people who’s hearts are so filled with love. Last year was my first year being on the team.  It is the most intense four month time span. Yet, the relationships and friendships that result are enduring.  I never stopped to think of my time on the Relay for Life team as networking. However, when I stop and look at it,  it really is incredible. I am so excited to be a part of the team again this year.  Actually, I am  honored.

Written by The Purple Lara

March 31, 2008 at 10:01 PM