Manipulation, what is it?
Who recommended: Lynne Waymon
What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon
Where in the book: page 36
Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!
Which quote: “Manipulation = when you connive to get something for yourself through misdirection, subterfuge or telling only part of the truth.”
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
Many people operate this way. I wonder, do they know they are doing it? When they get what they want, do they feel good about themselves?
Mapping it out…
Who recommended: Cristina Favreau
, The Savvy Entrepreneur
What I am reading: Get Clients Now by C.J. Hayden
Where in the book: page 55
Why I am reading: To make the most of my marketing
Which quote: “…Salespeople… ascribe their success to the deliberate process of thinking every aspect of their work and their lives, developing a detailed, written road map, and continually working toward where they want to go.” by Brian Tracy http://www.briantracy.com
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
I cannot imagine trying to take a bird’s eye view of my life. It is a foreign concept to look at my life from every angle. Plus, you want me to write it down? I definitely have goals. I am not the type to go through life without a plan. If anything I am told I over plan. This quote has made me stop and think because my planning is related to short term or immediate goals. It never occurred to me to map it all out.
Be all-end all of networking
Who recommended: Lynne Waymon
What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon
Where in the book: page 33
Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!
Which quote: “When people think of networking as TAKING or TRADING, what they get is Single-Sale Networking. Though Single-Sale Networking may result in instant gratification, it’s time consuming, and you miss out on the long-term benefits”
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
I just had an “Ah ha” moment. I really thought taking and trading were the be all end all of networking. This is why I shy away from networking. I do not want to be in a room full of people who are only there to get their product sold. I do not want to engage in exchanges where I know the only reason the other person is accepting my product is because they want to push their product. I like this new definition of networking. Networking interactions are investments in longer term relationships. Each person sees value in reciprocity. This type of networking I can embrace.
I am not visionary enough
Who recommended: Cristina Favreau, The Savvy Entrepreneur
What I am reading: Get Clients Now by C.J. Hayden
Where in the book: page 55
Why I am reading: To make the most of my marketing
Which quote: “Top salespeople over the years… have taken the time to sit down and create a clear blueprint for themselves and their future lives.” by Brian Tracy http://www.briantracy.com
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
Ok. This quote tweaked my defense nerve. I instantly want to say OH COME ON! Who in their right mind does this? I guess I am skeptical because I am not a visionary. For goodness sake, I am still warming up to the whole law of attraction concept.
My Style…
Who recommended: Lynne Waymon
What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon
Where in the book: page 25
Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!
Which quote: “My style ‘If you like to keep a lot of balls in the air,’ it will feel natural to you to collaborate, to give first and give generously, and to learn networking skills and systems so that you feel more comfortable. It will be a challenge for you to stick to your goals, to ask for what you want or need, to tell success stories, to hold up your end of the conversation, and to take your 50 percent of the ‘air time’.”
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
Now this describes me precisely. This quote encompasses my positive attributes and my challenges. Having this quote sums me up neatly. Now I have a reference. I will be able to focus on the new methods that specifically address my weaknesses. I will be able to use it as a measuring stick to note my progress.
Visualize what you want…
Who recommended: Cristina Favreau
, The Savvy Entrepreneur
What I am reading: Get Clients Now by C.J. Hayden
Where in the book: page 53
Why I am reading: To make the most of my marketing
Which quote: “Start visualizing specifically what you want and put it in writing.”
How this quote adjusted my thinking: I excel in visualizing what I want. I fail to write it down. I am not sure why writing down what I want is intimidating. It is probably fear of success and an unwillingness to face the thought of failure. You know what I want? I want it all and more. I want:
* an income so I can live a comfortable middle class lifestyle
* My children to go to college – w/o loans – tuition & books completely paid for by me
* to pay for Lauren’s college education
* to pay off my CC debt
* to pay off my HELOC
* a new laptop w/Verizon air card so I can have internet access any where
* a personal trainer
* a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes
* Michael Kors handbag
* Blackberry
* a dress from House of Nyla
* dinner at Burns
* a week at the Greenbrier
* my yard landscaped
* my backyard fenced
* my garage organized w/the professional organizing system
* new carpet in my house
* interior walls of my house professionally painted
* high end counter top
* my home office redecorated
AH-HA! Kleenex Blogging Metaphor
Mid afternoon today, I decided to step away from my computer to engage in some off line research. Hmm…maybe a modicum of truth is really in order. You know the big blogging gurus encourage honesty and integrity, etc. OK. I slumped off to vegetate in front of the television. I am not feeling well.
I have a Kleenex in my hand when I see the “Let It Out” commercial on TV.
Click! I have the Oprah “AH-HA” moment. All through the blogosphere I see bloggers trying to explain what blogging is, who should blog, and why you should blog. Here is a simple metaphor:
Take a look at the “Let It Out” commercial.
The sofa = a blog
The person sitting on the sofa = the blogger
The person listening = a blog subscriber
The stream of people looking on/walking by = a one post reader; web traffic
Yes! You should have a box of Kleenex by your side when you read blogs.
For as many varieties of Kleenex boxes, for all your decorating fancies, there are blogs to bring you to tears. You may have tears of laughter or joy or sadness or you might just read blogs for a living and need a Kleenex cause ya just don’t feel well.
Paying attention to Marketing
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Believing in myself…
Who recommended: Cristina Favreau, The Savvy Entrepreneur
What I am reading: Get Clients Now by C.J. Hayden
Where in the book: page 51
Why I am reading: To make the most of my marketing
Which quote: “I’m going for it because it matters to me and I believe in my dreams.’ Then prove you really do believe in yourself by taking action.” by Marcia Wieder http://www.dreamcoach.com
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
OK. This quote is my biggest challenge.
Number one: I have to believe in myself.
Number two: refer to number one.
I have no problem identifying what matters to me. I believe in my dreams. I have no problem taking action. Then I falter. Believe in myself? hmmm….
Definition of shy…
Who recommended: Lynne Waymon
What I am reading: Make Your Contacts Count (Networking Know-How For Business and Career Success) by Anne Baber and Lynne Waymon
Where in the book: page 22
Why I am reading: Learning how to network. Cause believe me, I have no CLUE!
Which quote: “Philip Zimbardo, who founded the Clinic, found that shy people are less popular, find fewer friends, exhibit lower self-esteem, make less money, say their lives are boring, demonstrate fewer leadership skills, are more likely to be depressed, have less social support and are more likely to be lonely.”
How this quote adjusted my thinking:
Really? I frequently tell people I am shy. This quote puts a whole new spin on things. I would not define or label myself with over half the characteristics listed here. According to this quote I am not shy. When it comes to networking, I feel so insecure. Perhaps it is not shyness I experience, rather timidness or that I am reserved. I am afraid to reach out for fear of “making a mistake.” I think “Make Your Contacts Count” will give me the tools I need to overcome my timidness. I am definitely not shy by this definition.
Lara Nieberding 